inspiration.

"Id always fall for guys I wanted to save. For the first time; I fell in love with someone who saved me" - Jessica Simpson.




So I know a lot of people dont really like her, due to the way she was on Newlyweds. But I just love her because she is real , and she doesnt hold anything back. She does not feel the need to act fake , or scared to look dumb. I love her though a lot more for the article I read about her in my Cosmo. The saying above her picture makes a lot of sense, and its something im going to be keeping in mind when I meet someone. I have always been with people that I felt I had to save, or make a better person. Ive always had to be the one that would listen to the long conversations of things they were dealing with, and how I was going to help them. I never had someone who made ME a better person, who was there to listen to all my issues, and help me work through them. Sure its great to want to help people out & save guys ...but that's why they got mothers right? LOL. Finally I want someone to save me, my wonderwall ♥

love takes courage.

I have this really BAD habit of thinking ...WAYYYYYY too much , over analyze things to a very big extent. I hate it and I try not to but its tough when I'm so used to it. SO I am officially back on the "dating scene" LOL. Ive been going on a couple "dates" with guys that I guess you can say I have a somewhat interest in. I'm just getting to know them a little better. I'm aiming for someone different than my usual ...but there are many that I can talk to and just think to myself " damn this seems so familiar" LOL. So now that I'm back on the dating scene, I caught myself re-reading my books " Hes just not that into you " and also " Why men love bitches ". =/ I honestly don't know if its a good thing or bad , like I wanted to start reading them again because I have had issues before where I have given myself to a guy way to easily and way too quickly. Most guys take my kindness, as weakness. Ive toughened up a lot .....maybe way too much. I give off a " I don't need you "attitude...and trust me they notice it. I hear it a lot, like DAMN jess why are you so mean? Why did you have to say it like that? Its hard for me to give myself to someone now...I hate looking or sounding like a go hard , so I will not call the guy till he calls me, I will not initiate plans till he says he wants to see me. I then find myself thinking is this part of me playing " the game"? I hate playing games , i hate having to figure out if the person likes you or if its going to become something more....but am I adding to that? I want to get right to the point , I don't want to waste my time wondering ..hmm does that mean he likes me ...or he didn't call maybe he doesn't like me anymore. I feel like I no longer have the patience for it. If I let go, and just show him that I'm feeling him, call him whenever I feel like it ...How will I know that he wont think I'm going hard? I need to learn to care; I think I need to let myself go , and show my feelings more. Maybe it did not work out with every other guy ...but who knows if these will be a lot different. If I don't want him playing games with me , then I guess I shouldn't play them with him either right?

Reminds me of the quote from the movie He's just not that into you - "I may dissect each little thing and put myself out there so much but at least that means that I still care. Oh! You've think you won because women are expendable to you. You may not get hurt or make an ass of yourself that way but you don't fall in love that way either. You have not won. You're alone. I may do a lot of stupid shit but I'm still a lot closer to love than you are. " _ Gigi.

Wise Words for my Females :]

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then fck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. [Oh yes] He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his, always. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. & ugh, if he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending... compromise is a two-way street. You need time to heal between relationships... there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone ..complimentary... not supplementary... Dating is fun... even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miSs you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for ..granted... Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar, but get to know others. Cheating's horrible, karmas worse. it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.