5.05.2009

Wise Words for my Females :]

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then fck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. [Oh yes] He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his, always. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. & ugh, if he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending... compromise is a two-way street. You need time to heal between relationships... there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone ..complimentary... not supplementary... Dating is fun... even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miSs you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for ..granted... Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar, but get to know others. Cheating's horrible, karmas worse. it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.


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Rai said...

All this is very true.
We all will make mistakes in relationships, just have to be sure to learn from them.

Elisa Marie! said...

your totally right, but yeahh most girls want security, and when ur with someone for so long thats ur comfort blanket.. and its the hardest to leave :)

stephyy said...

*inspired!!!* lol

xxxx said...

Girl thats the truth, many times we females succumb to low antics just so that we "wont be alone" and its sad because we are bigger than we hold ourselves to be. its funny because i was talking to a friend of mine and she said you have to play the game with them act like you dont want them and you dont care what they do the more they want you but act like you interested and they play you out. and you know what? as stupid as it sounds she was right... i dont understand them and i sure as hell dont try to

gor(jess). said...

yess -- u guys make very very valid boths ...

you guys should all read
" why men love bitches " it seriously reallllly changed me and the person I was when i was dating a guy ... i really need to re read it though lol

youll love it !

Kim said...

I've read this same thing somewhere before. I love it because what your saying is true! Thanks for putting this up. It's just a reminder of how I should date and what I should look out for.

Keep the posts coming!

Kim said...

Oh, and can you email me the link to the "Why Men Love Bitches" post.
I can't seem to find it.

William H. said...

hey hey hey....dont be bashing us MEN!! lol...j/k